Love in this Crazy Mess We Call Life

I’m worried about what a marriage means to the younger generation.

Facebook and Instagram and the Bachelorette have lied to them.

They’ve made our lives seem less than perfect.  They’ve made us see our imperfections and taught us how to add a filter to cover them up.  They’ve also made us think that falling in love is quick, easy and filled with fancy trips.

What I know after 27 years of marriage, is that every night is not a romantic party. We aren’t having candlelit dinners, buying each other expensive gifts, and talking about endless dreams at night.  Nope…we are eating Spaghetti, going to Home Depot and are praying that our hot water tank holds up for another year.

My Current Marriage Reality:

My sink is full of dishes, my floors need to be mopped and the only vacation we are going on this year is a trip to the lake with my parents…in their travel trailer… all 6 of us…with one bathroom.

My Current Marriage Reality:

I know how to use the slimming feature on pic monkey because I’ve gained 10 pounds in the past year. I know how to use the Sierra filter because I have sun damage from too much sun.  And our fancy, fun, family time means eating free popsicles on Friday nights.

My Current Marriage Reality:

My goodness girls, don’t get too jealous, but tonight we are both laying on the couch in our pajama pants with computers in our laps.  In the last hour, we have only said two words to each other and that was  “excuse me” for the bodily function that escaped without warning.

Glamorous life and marriage?

So if you need to know about how to keep love and a marriage together, you should ask people with a lifetime of experience.  So here is some advice from some experienced 63-103-year-olds.

They agree we all need these 5 things in the crazy mess we call life:

  1. Confidence. No not “everything in my life is great”confidence but, that we both bring worth to our marriage.  We also agree that we have an attractive quality that has nothing to do with our outward appearance.  (Dodged a bullet here, I was so worried my man wouldn’t be able to tell me what my attractive quality was but he finally came up with humor. That I find the light side of every situation.) short-quotes-personal2.jpg
  2. Happiness. Y’all, honestly, sometimes we fake it until we make it.   Everyone wants to be around happy people and wants to love happy people. Heck, it’s why we love dogs.  They are happy to see us, forgive easily and a small rub between the ears goes a long way. So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make your marriage happy.Be-Happy-And-Smile.-Happiness-Quote.jpg
  3. Share experiences. We actually enjoy doing things together. (or see above, fake it until we make it)  We go to ballgames.  We shop garage sales.  We paint, go to church, and sit quietly on our couch together.  2984149-Eike-Batista-Quote-Nobody-is-happy-alone-To-share-experiences-is.jpg
  4. Depend on each other. He’s mine and I’m his.  We just depend on each other.  If he is happy, I’m happy.  If he is sad, I am sad.  We both know that we could survive without each other…but…we.DON’T.want.to…ever.husband-quote-deep-love.jpg
  5. Luck.  Even with all these characteristics, couples were aware that holding their marriage together has to do with a little luck and a whole lot of Jesus. The Price’s know that we have been lucky and that God has protected our marriage.  Luck brought us together and I remind my man every day how lucky he is to have me. 🙂  TRUTH:  We pray A LOT for each other, our family, and our marriage.Sam_Keen_Quote.png

Got to go because I’m headed out for a crazy adventure with my man.  We are headed to McDonald’s for breakfast, going garage sale-ing, and then hopeful taking a nap this afternoon.  Lucky, lucky him and me.

Have an amazing Saturday Friends!!

Allyson

 

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Teacher Appreciation: This one goes out to MY Teachers

This one goes out to my teachers. You shaped me into the person I am today.    You shaped me into the teacher I am today.  You are the reason this week exist.   

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Mrs. Carr:  Kindergarten:  You are the reason I wanted to be a Kindergarten teacher.  You showed me the importance of waiting my turn, sticking together and naps in the afternoon are always a good idea.  You helped me fall in love with school, books and the sound of poetry.

 

 

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Mrs. Rolen:  1st Grade:  You spent countless hours with me teaching me to read.  You never let me give up on myself. You didn’t know at the time that I was dyslexic but you taught me all the strategies I needed to be a good reader and writer.  I had the chicken pox at Christmas time that year.  You took time to come over to my house to bring me my gift from you.  We still put the ornament on my parent’s Christmas tree each year.  

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Mrs. James: 2nd Grade:  You had a magical way of making each child feel special.  I will never forget when one of my classmates brought in glow in the dark crayons. You let us all color with them and then turned off all of the lights. The next day, all of our pictures were hanging in your supply closet.   You also had a laugh that shook the walls.  I still smile when I think about it.

 

 

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Shall-Remain-Nameless: 3rd Grade:  You taught me everything I didn’t want to be as a teacher.  I actually think you hated kids and teaching. You made me feel stupid because I couldn’t read as fast or as well as the others. You also didn’t know I was dyslexic and you gave up on me.  I don’t remember anything from this year besides the fact that I hated school. In hindsight, I now know why my mom volunteered in your classroom so much…she was trying to protect me from you.  Because of you, I never forget that a teacher has a choice to make a positive or negative impact.

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Mrs. Lowe:  4th Grade:  You saved me.  You made me think I could do anything.  You turned learning into something fun. You always had time for me and I believe you started the differentiated learning model.  You found a way to teach each child individually.  You made me the lead in the play. You made me enter the spelling bee. You gave me hope and you are the reason I am able to teach others to read today.  

 

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Mrs. Hendricks: 5th Grade:  You are the reason that I love to read out loud to kids.  You spent every day after lunch reading to us. Where the Red Fern Grows and Old Yeller   You taught me to love a good story.  You always brought in the government issued peanuts (I guess our school was poor…who knew?) Gave everyone a few and read to us.  You cried and we cried. You laughed and we laughed. You read so we read.

 

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Mrs. Saucier:  6th Grade:  You are the reason I can still recite from memory the poem of Little Orphan Annie.  You also made me realize I love poetry and words.  You also are the reason so many of my kids had to memorize poems, pick parts in plays and listen to me read while I sat on a stool.  You made me realize words can free you and that is a wonderful thing.

 

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Mrs. Bona:  6th Grade-8th Grade:  You are the reason I always say “mathematics”.  Not math or arithmetic. Mathematics. And my kids love that I call numbers that.  You taught me to question myself and others. You made me realize that working out all of the steps to a problem, was necessary sometimes.  You also are the reason I LOVE a sharp pencil. Like really…sharp pencils make me HAPPY!  (You are the real MVP for not making fun of the way I looked. JEEEZZ)

 

 

img_6750.jpgMr. and Mrs. Mattei, Mr. Snyder, Mr. and Mrs. Holbrook:  You gave me the love of music. You didn’t judge me because I didn’t practice as much as the person next to me.  You always found a way to push me but knew that I had a hundred other things in which I was involved. You made marching on Monday nights fun. But most of all, you wonderful people, taught me that precision was important and that you should always show up and do your best because a hundred other people were depending on you.  

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Mr. B:  9-12 math:  You taught me that if you love a bunch of kiddos, you should move up with them every year.  (HeeHee) You taught me to check it and check it again. You helped me see the power of working with others and pushed us to excellence. You laughed with us and cried with us.  You also made me see the possibility of a train leaving Chicago and a train leaving Nashville actually colliding. I’m still trying to solve this one. 🙂


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Coach Marquart:  basketball and volleyball – You showed me the value of hard work.  You are the reason when I am meeting a group of new students, need to present at a meeting, or when we are having a STAAR test, I wear high heel shoes! You always said, “Look Good, Feel Good, Do Good!”  And even today, it works.

 

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Coach Jones:  History  – You taught me to have fun.  To laugh. To sing. To go to my student’s activities.  You are the reason I hug kids. You always made us feel like we were your favorite student.  Of course, I think I was but I won’t tell the others.

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Mr. Hendricks:  You are responsible for my wonderful driving, my love of baseball and my husband. (thank you so much) You had me drive you to every game and taught me how to keep books.  You taught me how to act when I won and what to do when I lost. You listened to me talk but most of all you taught me when to stay quiet.
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Mr. Fagala and Mr. Smith:  You two guys let a small little girl enjoy her time in the AG shop.  You wouldn’t let me be intimidated by a bunch of boys and taught me how to weld, milk a cow and take care of an animal.  You showed me that I could be the FFA sweetheart but also the top of my class when laying down a bead on metal. (Sorry John)

 

 

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Mrs. Smith:  English and Volleyball – You, you sweet lady are the reason I teach.  The reason I build relationships with kids. The reason I write today to say thank you.  You checked on me, took me to dinner and prayed for me.  You treated each of us like family and made decisions that were best for us, even if they weren’t popular and told us why.  Every day when I walked out of your room, I knew you loved me.  It’s the feeling I try to give children every day.

Thank you seems so simple. But Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I love all of you.  

Allyson

P.S.:  I would love to take all of you out to dinner but you guys know what I make.  haha