If I could only be sure

If I could only be sure all the lessons I have been teaching you are sinking in.  If they are all being understood.  How can I tell you about disappointments?  You’ll have them, you know.  And they will be painful, they’ll hurt, they’ll shatter your ego, leave your confidence naked, and sometimes even cripple your dreams.

But people don’t die from disappointments.Disappointment.png

They usually rise up even stronger.  Sometimes the thunder is a reminder of the calm.

But…I want you to fall flat on your face some days.  I want you to hear the words “No.” “You Can’t do it.” “You’re out!” “You blew it.” “You’re just not what we are looking for.” “I don’t want to go out with you.”

All of these words will hurt, but people don’t die from them.  no.jpg

I want you to strike out swinging, get picked last, have your heart broken, try really hard but still fail, and wait in the rain for someone that never shows.

All of these actions will hurt, but people don’t die from them.



Adults tell children all the time, “These are the best times of your life.”

But, are they?

I don’t think they are.

Sometimes when adults say this to children, I look in their eyes.  They look like they just ate the entire package of Peeps and decided to get on the merry-go-round at the park.  (Sad to say, I’m speaking from experience.) kids_on_a_merry_go_round.jpg.860x0_q70_crop-scale.jpg

Everyone keeps telling them they are having a great time but they really would like to get off.

No one has immunity from disappointments.

The day you were born, you began to worry:  worry about the dark, noises, going down the drain when taking a bath, strangers, people dropping you, or not picking you up, or that man that said he stole your nose…would actually really steal it.

Later, you started to worry about other things like spending the night with our best friend and missing your mom, people you love leaving and not coming back, telling the truth even though it would hurt, and knowing the answers to the questions when the teacher calls on you.

And then, some heavy stuff starts to hit.  Worrying about not being enough, not having friends, not being accepted, what you want to be when you grow up, college, money, and marriage.

Worrying is normal.

download.jpgWe all do it.

But nothing like a parent’s worry.  You see, we are responsible for your life.  Heck, we brought you into this world and we can really mess you up.  (It’s why we all fret over your name for 9 months.)

There is so much to teach you and time goes so fast…

If I could only be sure you are listening and understanding just how much I love you.


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